1 Week down!

It has been one week since our final home study visit, and I wanted to clear something up. On some blogs, web sites, and such, couples do not consider themselves "waiting" until they have a completed home study. This means that it has been written and you have the final completed copy in your hands. I see things differently. At our agency you could be matched even though your home study report has not been written. With only four or five families to pick from, and three of those families in the same situation as us, it's slim pickings! So if a birth mom walks in there tomorrow, and is a good match for us, then our social worker would work all night to get our home study report ready so we can be matched. So that is why we say we are waiting now. Plus we have all of the stuff on our end done, which means we are just waiting!

Now on to what I wanted this blog post to be about! What to do while we are waiting. During our last home study visit, I asked our social worker how people survive the wait. She had a few suggestions: do not set up the babies room (it can be torture to walk past it everyday and be reminded of our wait, as if it is ever not on my mind). Live it up. As soon as that baby comes we are no long free to come and go as we are now. She said we should enjoy the last of the time we have together as just the two of us. I like this idea other then one thing. There is a fine line between living it up, and saving for the cost of our adoption. I feel guilty every time I eat out, or spend to much at any store. So how am I suppose to have this free summer of just going and enjoying? Guess I will just figure that out as we go.

Another idea I had was to finish up my classes. I have two or three classes left, at my current college before I move on. My only fear is that if I get into these classes in the fall, and we get placed before I finish, then it is going to be crazy at our house! That means Joe would be working 40 hours, I would be working 49 hours, and I would be going to school semi full time! Yuck!

I also like the idea of using this time to get fit! I know that a newborn+a job+a husband+two needy little pups= a very tired Mom (if I don't start getting into better shape). And no, I don't consider an upside down heart as a good shape to be! There are only three problems with this theory. 1. I love food, and I'm not talking about salad and veggies! I'm talking about mac and cheese, chicken nuggets and tater tots, tacos, pizza, burgers, and my new favorite Chinese. On top of that, I am an emotional eater! No matter the emotion I want to eat it! Stress being the one that I love to eat the most, and it is the one I have been feeling the most of lately! 2. I am so unhealthy now, and I am always too tried to go to the gym. I work at least 9 and a half hours everyday, and when I get out, the last thing I want to do is change and go to the gym! 3. Joe and I LOVE to sabotage each other! If I am having a strong day, Joe wants to eat out. When Joe wants to go to the gym, I want to take a nap. We just really need to find a way to get on the same page! I do plan to work on this though.

The other thing that I like to do is read. It can be anything from books to blogs. I like to read about adoption, but I also like to read about other things. I mostly read biographies. So if you know of a good one, let me know! This was also one of the ideas that our social worker gave us. I am blog crazy right now! I can not get enough adoption blogs. I just love to hear every ones version. It's neat to see how different every ones adoption story is. I have also been reading a lot of books on adoption. This can be good, and bad. I read one book that was one woman's story of her adoption, and it made me question, and worry about more then I think I need to. I guess I better stay away from stories like that! I am about to finish Tori Spellings Mommywood, which is a good book. Warning: She complains in almost every chapter of this book. I like her, but really what does she have to complain about?

My last idea is to do more sitting on the weekend. Not sitting on the couch, but babysitting. I figure this will be a great way to make more money for the adoption. I just need to find a few more families. Feel free to pass my name and number out! :)

These are the ideas I have come up with, but if you have any ideas for how we can keep busy during our wait I would love to hear them! Have a great week and weekend and I will have another post for you next Thursday!