The one thing I have figured out this week is that there is no point in making plans when it comes to adoption! I had called and emailed my SW last week about what the plan would be at the hospital, and what was the plan for our open adoption after the baby is born. She said she would get back to me. But chances are, even if we have a set plan for how things will go, it may not go that way at all. Case in point: The plan was for the baby to be born in the town were we live. The hospital is about a mile and a half from our house. The agency is about a half mile from the hospital. My pediatrician works at the hospital and would be ready to see the baby. But two weeks ago birth mom moved about 45 minutes south of our town. We were told this would not be a problem. Everyone said she would still be coming up here for appointments and that she would have the baby in our town. Two weeks ago I asked her what would happen if she could not make it here, and she said she planned to stay with family in our town the few days before the due date. She said she could just tell with her other kids, so it would not be a problem.
Yesterday she had another check up. They said everything looks great and she has gained 2 pounds. Then they gave her all her records to have, in case she has the baby in her town. She asked me if I was ok if it happened that way, and I said yes. But the more I think about it, I really wish the first plan was still in place. Birth mom said that her SW is checking to make sure we will have a room to stay in at the hospital in her town, but the old plan was for me to stay, and for Joe to go back and forth so he could be at home taking care of the dogs as well. After I got off the phone with birth mom I got the feeling that she will just go ahead and have him in her town, and not even worry about trying to have him here.
At this point I just need to set my need for plans aside, and try to just take it as it comes, because even with a plan, it does not look like it will stay as planned! :)
On a side note: Today makes 5 months of "waiting", or what we considered waiting. It's 5 months since we had our final home study visit. Some might say we only had to wait 3 weeks and 2 days. That is the time between getting our home study report back, and getting the call! Either way, now we have to wait 2 weeks and 4 days for his due date! Always waiting, right?
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